A Guide for Newcomers: Choosing a Sponsor

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There is no doubt about it; undergoing and completing drug treatment will set a solid foundation for long-term recovery. While the counseling, life and coping skills training and aftercare are important components, one cannot forget the importance of regular attendance in a Twelve-Step program such as AA or NA. Twelve-Step meeting is an important part of recovery, especially after formal treatment has been completed and you are working your program of recovery.

There is no doubt that the encouragement and support you receive from your peers around the tables of these sober support groups will give you the motivation to stay sober. In order to get the most out of these sober fellowship groups, however, you should seek out the help from a sponsor. Sponsors are a vital lifeline in your journey towards lifelong sobriety.

What is a Sponsor and What Do They Do?

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Its simplest terms, sponsors are those people who help those who are new to 12 step programs. Sponsors do their best to educate the newcomer on the 12 steps and traditions. Sponsors are obtained at a 12 step fellowship meeting and should be someone who has considerable time clean and sober. If someone is struggling with their sobriety at any given moment or need someone to talk to, most sponsors will allow those who they sponsor the freedom to call them at any time. Ultimately, the sponsor is there for advice and guidance through the ups and downs of early recovery. The best thing about getting a sponsor is that all you need to do is ask.

Why Should You Get A Sponsor? What Are the Benefits?


Sponsorship has several important benefits. Sponsors are a trusted person you can talk to at any time about what is going on in your recovery. They have been where you are right now and have worked their individual recovery to a degree that can provide you with inspiration as you work your own recovery. When you are unsure or shaky in your recovery, sponsors provide a helping hand. Sponsors can also give you guidance on how to work the steps and allow you to develop your own sense of spirituality. Additionally, sponsors are the bridge between the newcomer and their fellow addicts and allows you to build the support networks that you need for long-term recovery. Most importantly. sponsors act as a trusted friend as you progress in your journey towards lifelong recovery.


Tips In Finding the Sponsor That is Right for You

1. Your Sponsor Needs to be Active in a Twelve Step Program

The sponsor that you choose needs to be active in their Twelve-Step program and  believe in that structure in order to help you with your recovery. Your sponsor needs to know the Steps intimately, what each step entails, and  can explain them to you in a way you can understand. Your sponsor cannot be a semi-believer in the 12-steps or believe in them half-heartedly; they need to be fully invested in the 12-step philosophy.

2. Choose Someone That You Aren’t Attracted To

When choosing your sponsor,  it is very important to stay away from any chance of any kind of sexual encounter in the selection process.  It may seem silly to think about, but if you are going to be tempted in any way you are not putting your recovery first and it can distract you from the work you have ahead of you, keeping you from the real reason you need a sponsor. It doesn’t mean that you can’t choose a sponsor that is attractive or is someone that you truly like; it simply means that if your attraction is at a level beyond a friendship and is distracting you from working your recovery, it is best that you don’t choose that person to be your sponsor.

3. Sponsors Need Sponsors

Another important tip regarding effective sponsorship is that your sponsor should be actively working with their own sponsor. This is of great help because your sponsor will already know what is to be expected of them and what kinds of questions you may have because they have asked them at one point themselves. If your sponsor runs into a situation in which they are unable to help you for any reason, they can simply turn to their sponsor and they will be able to give them the correct advice regarding your own situation.

4. Your Sponsor Should Not Sugarcoat What Really Is Happening in Your Recovery

It is often said around the tables of Twelve-Step meetings how important it is to work an honest program. The last thing you need in your recovery is a sponsor who sugar coats the truth or tends to shy away from letting you know when you are being dishonest and not working your recovery to its fullest capacity. This doesn’t mean that your sponsor should be mean; your sponsor simply needs to be firm but fair in letting you know that your behaviors are dangerous and putting your recovery at risk.

5. Your Sponsor Should Be Positive and Optimistic

Your sponsor should be comfortable in working their own program of recovery as well as being positive about their own sponsorship role and the concept of fellowship with other recovering. An upbeat sponsor can help guide you through the rough spots and is able to give you an encouraging attitude.

Learn How To Live A Life of Recovery through Ocean Breeze Recovery Center

Completing drug treatment is a major milestone in your early recovery. However, the real work in recovery begins once you leave treatment and transition back to your normal daily life. This is where the proverbial rubber meets the road. When you are looking for a drug treatment facility that employs a hands-on approach and features programming that is effective and proven to work, Ocean Breeze Recovery Center is your first choice. We provide a safe, stable and empowering recovery environment that will help you fully integrate back into society and be productive, healthy and sober.

Through the help and support of Ocean Breeze Recovery Center, recovery can and will be a reality for you.

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